How do you feel about being friends with benefits?
So I was seeing this guy for about 4 months, known him for 2 years. We stopped seeing each other the day after my bday (jan 17th). I had tried to disappear from his life. I deleted him from everything, but I missed him…well that’s what I thought it was.
After I had a conversation with my best friend I realized that maybe I never liked him at all, maybe I don’t miss him. Maybe, just maybe, all the things that I felt were a result of an intense physical and sexual attraction. Maybe it’s not his laughter that I miss, but the way his breath felt on my neck. Maybe I don’t miss the way his eyes used to search mine, but the way his hands used to search my body. Maybe I’m not longing to tell me he misses me in a sweet voice, but that he wants me in raspy whisper. Maybe.
So what I’m wondering is, is being friends with benefits okay? Is it safe to do this when you’ve known someone for long time? Will someone get hurt? And will you ever move forward and find someone else, if you’re still messing with your past?
Questions, questions, questions. I guess the only way to have them answered is to just go for it and see what happens. That’s what life is about right? Taking chances, making mistakes. Hopefully that’s not what happens.
You’re right…you have to figure out if it works for you. It’s quite possible that a friend with benefits relationship can work out; whether or not it applies in your life…well, that’s something different.
And you’re birthday is the day before mine! Coooooooooooooooooooooool.
Is it? So you’re a capricorn! Yay for capricorns! haha.